Attachment Theory Studies: Secure Attachment

Attachment theory is one of the theories that guides the Trauma-Informed Yoga Psychology School. We take a deep dive into exploring how our experiences in relationships impact the ways we show up in the world.

One of my attachment teachers along the way, Roger Solomon, has said:
💗 Attachment is not about love, it is about security.
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Mary Ainsworth’s research identified that there are four attachment styles, which we are going to explore, together. Starting with Secure Attachment 💗

Secure attachment: 

When we are in a relationship where we feel safe and secure, we are then able to go off into the world and be independent and do the things that we want to do on our own. Because we know that when the bumps and bruises happen…

(because they will…)
(because life is hard….)

… that we can come back, and that person is going to be there. 

To collect us. 
To hold us. 

Secure attachment is⁠ comfort in experiencing both closeness and independence, in the relationship. Consistency in the relationship nurtures our sense of safety and security, in relationships. ⁠
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Reflective prompts, for you: ⁠
✨What does security, in relationships, mean to you? 
✨What does safety, in relationships, mean to you?
✨What does safety or security feel like, in your body? 
✨Perhaps there are times when you have felt safe & secure in a relationship... This might be a therapist, a friend, or someone else... we need only one person to support us in deepening our sense of safety and security.
✨Lean-into those who collect and hold you, when life feels hard. 
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Would love to hear your reflections!⁠
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These teachings are an integral part of our Trauma-Informed Yoga Psychology School teacher trainings and our Counselling Team's approach! ⁠
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♥️ Dr. Melissa Jay⁠