We have explored Secure Attachment & today we will start our attachment theory studies by exploring:
Anxious attachment is experienced as the fear of losing the relationship can lead to a heightened need for closeness and distress that any independence will lead to loss.
What Anxious Attachment can look like, across the lifespan:
🔹Fearful: ‘I am so deathly scared that I will lose you, that I am going to keep you close’.
🔹'I am going to try and keep you close in ANY way I can think of'.
🔹Any independence feels like am going to be alone and abandoned.
🔹Any independence is too scary.
'Attachment is not about love, it is about security'.
~ Roger Solomon
Reflective prompts, for you:
✨How do you feel?
✨What do you need?
✨How can you support yourself in meeting your needs?
✨How can others support you in meeting your needs?
✨Consider who you can reach out to, including a counsellor.
Would love to hear your reflections, below!
Attachment theory is used by our counselling team and guides the Trauma-Informed Yoga Psychology School. We take a deep dive into exploring how our experiences in relationships impact the ways we show up in the world.
♥️ Dr. Melissa Jay
Dr. Melissa Jay
109-705 10th Street Canmore, AB T1W2A3
We are located beside Communitea Cafe, on the corner of 10th St. and 6th Ave.
Dr. Melissa Jay is an Indigenous, Nehiyaw-Métis, person, a member of the Métis Nation of Alberta, and the Indigenous Director of the Canadian Counselling & Psychotherapy Association. We at Canmore Counselling respectfully acknowledges the traditional lands of the Indigenous Peoples (Inuit, First Nations, Métis) of Canada. We are privileged to live on sacred lands and celebrate all of the Indigenous peoples, who live, work, play, and care for these lands. As an act of reconciliation and decolonization, may we work together to answer the TRC's Calls to Action: Truth & Reconciliation Commission Reports and Findings.